5 Truly Unique Adult Ice Breaker Games and Discussion Questions

I'm a person that loves learning about people and, when I host parties, I'll often have some icebreaker games prepared. The trouble is, there are so few icebreaker games out there that are actually original. As a result, I've had to make them up! Over the years, I've kept a private list of all my favorite icebreaker games—both the ones I've created, and the most unique ones I've found online. Now, I'm ready to share that list with the world. I hope it brings you many hours of enjoyment!

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1. The Ultimate Theoretical Discussion Question

Pose the following question to a group of people—it's sure to get an animated conversation going and can reveal a lot about each person:

"You are sent back to the Middle Ages in a time capsule the size of a telephone booth. You can bring exactly one modern object back with you to help you survive and thrive during that time. Besides that object, nothing else but the clothes you're currently wearing can come with you. The object you choose can contain only the parts and accessories that are normally part of that object, such as wires or batteries, but nothing else. What do you bring?"

Part of the fun of asking this question is actually shooting down the most common answers that people give, most of which are impractical. For example, many people say "a computer," but there is no electricity in the middle ages, so a computer is near-useless! Others say things like "a barrel of penicillin" but, don't forget, you don't have any friends or a place to live. If you showed up to a town with a huge barrel filled with a mysterious substance, it would be like a ball-and-chain for you, making it difficult to move around to find food and shelter. Plus, if people caught on to the fact that your barrel's contents magically heals people, someone might steal it from you—or, even worse, you could be burnt at the stake for witchcraft!

Another popular answer is "a gun" but, don't forget, one gun can only hold so many bullets, and it can't defeat an entire medieval army.

In truth, this is a super hard question because it's partly about surviving in a foreign place with nothing but the clothes on your back, and it's partly about integrating a modern person into a savage, superstitious, and disease-ridden time in history. There is no perfect object to see you through a situation like that.

However, when this question was posed on an online discussion forum, someone came up with an answer that got more kudos than any other, and, while bizarre, is kind of brilliant. I don't want to spoil it for you, but if you're ready to hear it, it's upside-down at the bottom of this page.

2. Life Auction: A Fascinating Way to Learn What People Value

The Ultimate Theoretical Discussion Question

My wife and I made up this group game which involves giving people currency—poker chips or Monopoly money—and allowing them to bid on a number of life attributes (e.g. a happy marriage, fabulous wealth, political power). Some of the attributes are serious, some are silly. Since everyone has the same amount of currency, how much you bid on each attribute quickly teaches you what you value most. Then, the group is broken up into teams, and a number of scenarios are presented (e.g. "You have been captured by a wild tribe and sentenced to certain death."). Each team has to use the attributes its members won in the auction to argue why they would be the most successful in that particular scenario.

The game leads to lots of discussion about values, and becomes pretty spirited (and hilarious) as you argue why your team's attributes would make you the most successful in each scenario.

Below are the instructions, life attributes, and the seven scenarios we made up. Obviously, you can substitute or add anything you wish for any of the scenarios and attributes!

Game Contents:

  • $1000 in currency per person using poker chips or Monopoly money
  • 20 Life Attribute Cards— the rule of thumb is that everyone will win 2-3 life attributes, so if you have 8 people playing, 20 Life Attribute Cards works well
  • 7-10 Scenario Cards


Say these aloud to the group at the start of the activity.

You will soon be thrown into a hypothetical scenario where you'll need your best attributes to survive and thrive. The scenario itself is a mystery that will be revealed later in the game, but some examples of what the scenario might look like include, "trapped in a pit filled with snakes" and "at a dinner party with your boss and his wife."

To prepare yourself for this mystery scenario, you will have the opportunity to purchase the attributes you'll need through twelve auctions. Once you win an attribute, it is yours and can be traded anytime before the mystery scenario is revealed. In front of each person is $1000 in currency to be used in the auctions.

For anyone that has never participated in an auction, the way it works is that the Auctioneer starts the bidding at a certain price. All who are willing to pay that price to win the item raise their hand. The item's price keeps rising as long as people continue to bid against each other by raising their hands. When we've found the person willing to pay the highest price for the item, that person wins it.

Game Play

  1. Perform the auctions (the Auctioneer will also be the Judge later on)
  2. Split everyone up into teams of two (if there is an even number of players, there will be one team of three)
  3. Allow everyone to trade attributes (if they wish) for 1 minute—then the trading period ends
  4. The Judge picks a Scenario Card, and announces the scenario
  5. Everyone has two minutes to discuss with their team how they'll present their case for the scenario
  6. Everyone presents their case for winning the scenario
  7. The Judge decides the winner of the scenario
  8. Whichever team wins 3 scenarios first, wins the game


Auction as many or as few as you want, depending on your group size

  1. You have expert-level outdoor survival skills
  2. You are always sexier than 99.3% of the population
  3. You can fly, but for every five minutes of flight, Mike Tyson appears and sucker punches you once
  4. You can eat whatever you want without gaining weight or feeling sick
  5. You are worth 100 million dollars (in nickels)
  6. You can purify water instantly just by gurgling it
  7. You have beautiful, silky hair in every situation—no matter what
  8. You can morph into Kanye West for 30 minutes once per month
  9. You gain Albert Einstein's intelligence, but your hands are always covered with chalk
  10. You can teleport up to 100 miles away at any time, but in order to gain your power, you must live in Gary, Indiana for 5 years
  11. Your vote is the sole decider of the elections in any state you live in
  12. Everyone around you will be truthful whenever you want them to be
  13. Wherever you go, there will always be a best friend nearby
  14. You can run or swim up to 100 miles without getting tired
  15. You have instant access to all of the clothes ever used in Vogue photoshoots
  16. Once a year, you can telepathically communicate with one person that you know for the entire day
  17. You have the ability to pickpocket anything fist-size or smaller without getting caught
  18. You can always find food no matter where you are by digging 3 feet into the ground
  19. Everyone finds you to be a fascinating conversationalist
  20. You have a GPS inside your brain
  21. You can pick up any language in an hour
  22. You can produce infinite doves from your sleeve


You can present as many as you wish, choosing a winning team for each one based on their arguments.

  • You're stranded on a tropical desert island, and the nearest civilization is 500 miles away
  • You're at the Oscars after-party—and looking to score
  • You've been sent back in time to a war-torn nation with nothing but the clothes on your back, and need to defeat an army
  • You've been turned into a modern day high schooler, and have to become the most popular kid in school as quickly as possible
  • You're an unknown candidate vying to become the next President of the United States
  • You've been committed to a mental institution, and nobody believes that you should be set free
  • You're the CEO of a major sports drink company, and need to increase sales or the business will go bankrupt
  • [Insert your own idea here!]
The Ultimate Theoretical Discussion Question

3. What Do You Really Care About: A Writing and Discussion Activity

This one is far more impactful than you would imagine. And it's simple. There are 100+ values below. Everyone in the room spends about 15 minutes looking through the values and choosing the ten that define them best. From there, they need to put those 10 values in order of importance. Then, everyone goes around and reads their values out loud, discussing why they chose them and ordered them the way they did.

class="elf-text"As simple as this activity is, it's REALLY hard. To put one value above another when there are several that mean the world to you is somewhat agonizing. But, once you're done, you have a picture of yourself that's surprisingly informative.

We did this activity last New Year's Eve, and it was a big hit. One little "extra" we added was asking everyone to shout out guesses at each person's core values before they read them out loud.

For this activity, you'll want to print out copies of the list of values and hand them out to everyone in the group, along with pens or pencils.

Common Sense
Hard Work
Inner Peace
Personal Growth
The Ultimate Theoretical Discussion Question

4. Autobiography Words: The Perfect No-Prep Discussion Game

Autobiography Words is the easiest game to play on this list, and it has the unique distinction of being able to teach you things about anyone, even people you've known for years. When I play this game with my wife—which we do all the time—I always hear myself say, "I never knew that about you!" This is after years of marriage.

The way it works is that someone picks a word at random. You can just think of something out of the blue, or open up the nearest book or magazine and point to a random word. Usually, the word should be a noun, like "basketball" or "elf" or "mandarin orange." It can also be a proper noun like "the Leaning Tower of Pisa." Then, the people in the group—and this can be played with any number of players, or as few as two—say what they associate with that word. What does it mean to them? What does it remind them of? You can go in any direction when reacting to the word, there are no limits. Often, people talk about how they first learned about the thing in question, what meaning it had to them in childhood, or what they like or hate about it today.

For example, if I were playing and the word were "plastic," the first thing that comes to mind for me are the big colorful tubes of the "BigToys" jungle gym we had at my elementary school. I was there when it was first installed, and it always smelled like new plastic inside the tunnels where I spent many hours playing with friends and daydreaming.

You may want to choose a time limit for answers, as some people will want to share their associations for a while—two minutes is a good limit for each person's answer.

I find that playing five or so rounds of this game is usually about right, but you can play for as long as it feels interesting to your group.

The Ultimate Theoretical Discussion Question

5. Categories: The Perfect Road Trip Game

Maybe I'm just weird, but I love trying to come up with all the items that make up a specific list. A guy I know likes to do the same to pick up girls at bars—he'll walk up to a girl and say, "Hey, can you name all seven dwarves?" Inevitably, she will play along, because it's fun to see if you can remember all their names!

The following game is essentially the same concept: one person makes up a category, and the others have to work together to try to name as many items in that category as possible. It helps if you give a definite number of items that must be named in order for the group to win the challenge.

For example, "Name 5 deodorant brands."

Can you do it? I bet you can, but it may take you a minute or two to think of them. I've found that the ideal number of items to ask for is an amount that is challenging to come up with, but not impossible.

Another example would be, "Name 15 Game of Thrones characters." If you watch the show, you can probably name five or six immediately. But can you actually get to 15? It might be close. That's why I chose 15 and not 5 (too easy) or 25 (too hard).

It's fun to make up your own categories but, in case you'd like some ideas, here are a few I've used in the past:

  • 8 underwear brands
  • 6 people you know with red hair
  • 10 types of gas stations (e.g. Exxon)
  • 8 coffee brands
  • 7 types of women's shoes (e.g. heels)
  • 3 animals that begin with a "J"
  • 5 video game systems from the 80s and 90s
  • 15 types of dogs
  • 6 keys on a standard keyboard that are not letters, numbers, punctuation, "enter," or the spacebar.
  • 5 flavors of Ben & Jerry's ice cream

I hope you got some great ideas from this post! And don't forget that pairing a game with gifts and prizes makes it way more fun. Elfster.com is the Internet's leading gift-giving tool, helping millions of people organize wish lists and Secret Santa gift exchanges each year.

Special thanks to Evan Bailyn for contributing to this article.

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